Ever wondered how the course of our daily lives has changed in the modern times? How gradually the pace of work and life has accelerated so much that it has increased the value of time manifolds suddenly.
In a family with children, when parents are out of their house 12-14 hours a day, earning bread and butter for the family, earning a comfortable living and earning for better education for their children, what do the children do at that time? What all are they absorbing and learning?
In my interaction with parents across different socio-economic background, one thing I found common across them was parents finding limited time to spend with their children. The quality time the working parents spend with their children in either during the evening or on holidays. Thus, it leaves us with a wonderful quest that how and from where students learn the day to day skills?
Much of the times, where this situation prevails, for initial years of children’s grooming, grandparents play a vital role. They receive the children, when they are back from the school, make them sleep; assist them in doing their daily work, look after them when they go out to play. They know their daily needs and develop a deep relation with them. In such cases the students start picking up all the skills which they develop during their play time or free time through them. In cases, where even grandparents are not there, the children staying in day care miss out a lot on opportunities they would have got by being with their own parents/grandparents. It has been seen that children at the tender age of growing need the following two parameters to attain a healthy emotional and mental life.
Attention – Children need attention and immediate recognition or rectification on their actions. During the early development years, children’s mind and body go through process of rapid changes. They learn so many new skills, they are in the mode of absorbing a lot of information, and they are trying every day to make sense of their world little more. During these times, kids need attention by their parents. Though may be they are well taken care of in school, but they are still 1 of 25-30 students in class. The immediate intervention on their thoughts and actions which can be given by parents is incomparable to what can be given by a teacher in classroom setting.
Care and bonding – Quality bond contributes in developing quality character. Kids receiving more love and compassion help them develop similar value towards others around them and ingrained in their character. They learn to give when they receive. With the unavailability of parents at home, kids are not only at a risk of not developing these values rather might end up developing such traits which can be a threat to their personality. Especially during their adolescence, the chances of kids getting into habits which are unhealthy for their body and mind are higher when the quantum of care and bonding is less.
The reliance of parents on schools for students’ academics and their personality usually leads to the conflict in responsibility. It becomes a play where both the parties keep each other accountable which ultimately lead to no solution. Thus, for a healthy emotional, behavioral and mental development of children, awareness among parents about ‘their little extra investment of time can bring a significant change in their children’s lives’ can really play a big role in bringing teachers and parents together to collaborate and work towards the common goal of quality education for all.
By Ritika Arora – Educational Specialist